Essential Tips for Parents: A Smooth Transition to Preschool

Starting preschool is a monumental milestone for both children and their families. As your little one prepares for their first day, you may experience a whirlwind of emotions—pride, anxiety, and excitement all rolled into one. 

To ease this transition for both you and your child, I’d like to share some practical tips that I’ve found to be effective for our students over the past 20 years:

Preparing Before the Big Day

  1. Use Visual Aids
    Visual images can be powerful tools in preparing your child for their new environment. Request photos of their teachers from the school to share at home. Familiarizing your child with their future caregivers can help ease their nerves. You can also take pictures of your child during morning routines, such as getting dressed, having breakfast, and walking to school. These images can serve as comforting reminders of home.

  2. Create a Family Photo Book
    Consider putting together a small book of family photos for your child to take to school. This personalized touch can provide comfort, helping them feel connected to home during their initial days in a new setting.

  3. Talk About School Positively
    Engage in conversations about school at home, especially if your child expresses anxiety. Use positive language and focus on the fun aspects: “Today, Dad will drop you off at school where you can play with the blocks and trucks you loved yesterday. Your teachers will sing songs, and I’ll pick you up for lunch right after the goodbye song!”

The Goodbye Process

  1. Know When to Say Goodbye
    If your child seems ready and comfortable, inform their teacher that you’ll be leaving. This allows them to provide support during the transition.

  2. Be Consistent in Your Actions
    Consistency is key. If you tell your child, “I am leaving,” it’s important to follow through. Staying when they become upset can create confusion. They might begin to think, “If I cry, Mom will stay, and I won’t be alone!”

  3. Always Say Goodbye
    Establish a routine for goodbyes. Let your child know what to expect: “I’m going to grab a coffee, and I’ll be back in 10 minutes” or “I need to make a quick phone call, and I’ll return right after the goodbye song.”

  4. Avoid Sneaking Away
    It might be tempting to sneak out when your child is distracted, but it’s essential to say goodbye. If you’re unsure how to approach this, don’t hesitate to ask a teacher for guidance.

  5. Trust the Teachers
    Once you leave the classroom, trust that the warm and loving teachers will comfort your child if they become upset. Remain out of sight, and only return if the teachers or administrators ask for your presence.

The transition to preschool can be challenging for both children and parents, but with a little preparation and consistency, it can also be an exciting new adventure. By utilizing these tips, you can help your child feel more comfortable and secure as they embark on this new chapter in their lives. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey—your teachers are there to support both you and your little one every step of the way!

Kristen Pallonetti, Program Director & Parent

Kristen joined TCS in 2009 as a Pre-K teacher, becoming the director in 2010. Kristen attended Cornell University where she earned a B.S. degree in Human Development with concentrations in Developmental Psychology and Early Childhood Education. At Cornell, Kristen was involved in research with infants and young children studying language development and spatial awareness. She then completed the Harris Fellowship in Child Development and Early Childhood Education at Yale University where she was a preschool teacher at Calvin Hill Day Care Center, a model progressive early childhood center, and also participated in seminars with the clinical child psychiatry team at the Yale Child Study Center. Kristen then went on to the Harvard Graduate School of Education, earning a Master of Education degree in Human Development and Psychology. Her background in child development, developmental psychology, and early childhood education guides her work at TriBeCa Community School, implementing social constructivism and Reggio Emilia-inspired work with children, teachers, and parents.

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